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What to do when someone dies in South Africa

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South Africa · Resources: 16

People and communities

Free access South Africa; online and Johannesburg

The Compassionate Friends South Africa

Bereaved parents and siblings

Peer support after the death of a child or sibling. Trained lay counsellors offer online sessions and support at the Johannesburg centre; they are peers, rather than clinical therapists.

  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Sudden death or suicide loss

Free lay counselling and support groups. Contact the team about availability.

Check costs and access South Africa

Find a hospice or palliative care centre

Association of Palliative Care Centres

Find an accredited local provider and ask about family support before a death and bereavement support afterwards. This can be a starting point for finding help close to home.

  • The early days
  • Grief before a death
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Death of a partner

Ask the local provider about eligibility, languages, fees and waiting times.

Free access South Africa

SADAG support groups

South African Depression and Anxiety Group

Find a support group or ask SADAG which local or online group may fit your needs. Ask specifically about grief and bereavement when making contact.

  • The early days
  • Death of a partner
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss
  • Sudden death or suicide loss
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief

Free support groups. Group focus, meeting times and places vary.

Free access South Africa

Childline South Africa

Childline South Africa

Counselling for children and teens, and help for adults with child-related concerns. Call 116 or see the online counselling options, including a chat service accessible to D/deaf users.

  • Children and young people
  • Supporting someone else

116 is free from all networks, 24 hours a day. Online chat has separate opening hours.

Check costs and access International group network

GriefShare: Christian grief support groups

GriefShare

A faith-based option for people who would welcome a Christian approach. Find locally hosted or online groups and ask the host about the format before joining.

  • The early days
  • Death of a partner
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief

Fees, workbooks and schedules vary by group. English and Spanish programmes; local availability varies.

Content note: Christian teaching is part of the programme.

Books by local voices

Memoirs, practical guides and books to read together. Choose what feels right, and put a book down whenever you need to. Libraries may offer print, digital or audio editions.

Borrow or buy South African author

Lessons from Loss

Dominique Olivier

Memoir and reflections

A Cape Town writer reflects on life after the sudden deaths of her husband and young daughter. Personal scenes sit alongside reflections on parenting, relationships and living with loss.

  • The early days
  • Death of a partner
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss
  • Sudden death or suicide loss

Paid book; ask a library about borrowing or accessible editions.

Content note: Road accident, death of a partner and a young child.

Why this book is here

A new South African voice, published in March 2026. Included for its local lived experience; publisher information confirms its subject and author.

Sources checked 2026-10-05

Borrow or buy South African author

The Grief Handbook

Bridget McNulty

Practical guide and journal

Written after the South African author’s mother died, this book combines personal experience, expert perspectives and activities that readers can approach at their own pace.

  • The early days
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief

Paid book; ask a library about borrowing or accessible editions.

Why this book is here

Chosen for its South African perspective and reflective exercises. The author describes the book and its origins on this page.

Things to read and try

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

There is no timetable for grief

Cruse Bereavement Support

An introduction to how grief can change over time, including why anniversaries and unexpected reminders can bring strong feelings back. There is no set sequence you have to complete.

  • The early days
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief
  • Death of a partner
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss

Free online information.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

Looking after yourself while grieving

Marie Curie

Small, practical ideas for rest, daily life and asking for help. Choose something that feels possible today; you do not need to do everything at once.

  • The early days
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief
  • Death of a partner
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss

Free online information.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

Grief before someone dies

Marie Curie

Explains anticipatory grief and some feelings that can come with caring for someone who has a terminal illness. Includes a short video and suggestions for finding support.

  • Grief before a death
  • Supporting someone else

Free online information.

Free access US information, readable anywhere

Resources for children, teens and young adults

Dougy Center

Age-specific activities, information and support for families before and after a death. Includes material for parents and caregivers, and a Spanish-language resource collection.

  • Children and young people
  • Supporting someone else
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Sudden death or suicide loss
  • Grief before a death

Free resources; use the age and audience sections to find a starting point.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

When someone has just died: how to help

Cruse Bereavement Support

Ideas for listening, offering practical help and sharing memories without trying to fix another person’s grief. For friends, family and colleagues who want to be there.

  • Supporting someone else
  • The early days

Free online information.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

Being there on anniversaries and later on

Cruse Bereavement Support

Ways to keep supporting someone after the first weeks, remember important dates and continue making room for the person who died in conversation.

  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief
  • Supporting someone else

Free online information.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

When grief and family conflict overlap

Cruse Bereavement Support

Explores why people in the same family can grieve differently and why tensions may grow after a death. A starting point for understanding difficult feelings and seeking support.

  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Supporting someone else

Free online information.

Free access UK information, readable anywhere

Coping with the loss of a pet

Blue Cross

Information for people grieving a pet or assistance animal, including grief before a death. The UK charity also describes its pet-loss support options; check access from your location.

  • Loss of a pet
  • Grief before a death
  • Supporting someone else

Free online information.

Something to listen to

Free access US podcast, available online

Grief Out Loud

Dougy Center; hosted by Jana DeCristofaro

Conversations about the many ways people experience grief. Browse episode descriptions and choose a topic that feels right; listening can be an alternative when reading feels hard.

  • The early days
  • Children and young people
  • Family, friends and siblings
  • Death of a partner
  • Pregnancy, baby or child loss
  • Sudden death or suicide loss
  • Grief before a death
  • Anniversaries and ongoing grief
  • Supporting someone else

Free podcast. Episodes vary in length and subject.

Content note: Some episodes discuss suicide, violence or the death of a child. Check the episode description.

When you are ready for the practical things

Paperwork and arrangements can feel like a lot. Our separate loss guides help you keep track of practical tasks, one step at a time.

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Support that fits you

Your relationship, culture, faith and language matter. You can ask a provider about these, accessibility and costs before you begin. If distress is making everyday life difficult, a doctor or qualified counsellor can help you find further support.

How we choose and care for this library

We include local authors, established bereavement organisations and clearly attributed lived experience. Book notes explain the selection: a publisher description is different from a professional recommendation. Links are not affiliate links.

These are starting points, not treatment or a guarantee of fit. Sources and contacts were checked on the dates shown; availability and fees can change. We aim to review entries every three months. Service providers set their own privacy terms.

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